Nursing Homes

[rapmarks]

yes, they are afraid to say no to my mother.

[rapmarks]

Here is what I have found out. There are really beds available, the nursing homes in south chicago suburs are all trying to go to short term care because they get more from medicare. My cousins daughter works in the field, is in and out of the homes daily. The home my mother is in now gets $18000 a month from Medicare for short term care, upstairs is the long term nursing home, they get $10,000 a month. they are phasing out the long term care. Wait lists are not real, you will never get a call. private pay will get moved ahead of Medicaid if there is a rare opening. Assisted living today is what a nursing home in the past was as far as the health of the residents.

[Tia]

Interesting eye opener about the short term and long term pay differences and the trend going towards the better paying short term.

Tough situation, sounds like there needs to be someone listening to the facts and then take the emotions out to come up with with the best solution. Good Luck

Here is what I have found out. There are really beds available, the nursing homes in south chicago suburs are all trying to go to short term care because they get more from medicare. My cousins daughter works in the field, is in and out of the homes daily. The home my mother is in now gets $18000 a month from Medicare for short term care, upstairs is the long term nursing home, they get $10,000 a month. they are phasing out the long term care. Wait lists are not real, you will never get a call. private pay will get moved ahead of Medicaid if there is a rare opening. Assisted living today is what a nursing home in the past was as far as the health of the residents.

[mkarizona]

It is probably guilt that is making your sisters think they have to take your mother home. But the prospect of your sister without health insurance until she reaches Medicare age is a real concern. It seems that you are the sibling who is trying to analyze the situation from a logical vs. emotional mindset.
Best of luck.

My dad is 94 with dementia and we just moved him into a care home last month. The guilt and "I should be able to do this" "maybe its not really that bad" etc. are huge stumbling blocks. My brother made me see the light with one question: Would you rather put him in a home too soon or wait until something bad has happened? I still feel like I have to defend my decision to anyone who asks but at least I know the decision was right! Keep telling your sisters that you think they should move your mom into a home. It will lessen the guilt. They need to know you will not think less of them for making that decision.